Many people respect they are being taken capabilities of and/or have problem saying “no. ” Others do not see themselves as unassertive but do feel depressed or unfulfilled, have a lot of actual ailments, have lawsuits about work but assume the boss or teacher has the correct to demand whatever he/she wants, etc. Nothing will change until the victim acknowledges his/her rights are being denied and he/she makes a decision to correct the condition. Keeping a diary may permit you to assess how intimidated, compliant, passive or timid you’re or how challenging, whiny, bitchy or competitive others are.
Look for or devise ways of polishing your assertiveness skills. Examples: Ask a pal to lend you a piece of apparel, a record album or a book. Ask a stranger for directions, change for a dollar, or a pen or pencil. Ask a shop supervisor to lessen the price of a soiled or a bit of damaged article, to demonstrate a product, or exchange a purchase order. Ask an instructor to let you be mindful a point, find extra reading, or go over items you missed on an exam. Practice speaking and making small talk, give compliments to pals and strangers, call up a city authentic if you happen to see something unreasonable or inefficient, praise others when they have done well, tell friends or co workers stories you have had, and on and on.
Keep a diary of your interactions.